You Could Burst

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It’s not an easy balancing act, living in this world. It’s been called the information age. I’ve also heard it called the disinformation age. We have everything at our fingertips when it comes to information, data, input. It’s all out there, and then some… It’s the “and then some” that gets us.

There is a lot of good going on in the world.

There is a lot of bad going on in the world.

The way I handle good and bad is quite different.

For some reason, with the good, I let it go. Maybe it’s poorly chosen modesty. Maybe it’s an over optimistic view of how the world should be. But when the good comes in, I smile, I am glad for it’s existence, and then I let it go. I allow the good to flow through me and let go of the feeling. It’s almost as if I expect the world to be that way so I don’t find myself surprised when I see it.

For the bad, I respond quite different. When I receive bad news, I internalize it. First I check to see if it’s my fault. If I can’t be blamed I breath a quick sigh of relief and then try to find the guilty party. Who is to blame for this evil in the world? How could they? Don’t they know they’re hurting people? Or when it’s really personal, “Don’t they know they are threatening me?” My injustice, ire and belligerence kicks in and I want it solved/fixed/removed. More importantly I don’t let go. I hold it in and hold it in.

Then to make matters worse, as I try to resolve the problem, I research the problem. I focus on the problem. I look for the culprit, trying to find the root cause and look for the resolution. I take more and more of it in.

For some problems this works… Or at least it used to feel like it worked, for the little problems. But as I’ve gotten older and the scope of my problems has expended. Or perhaps my attention has been diverted to larger problems. And the scope of my information available has expanded. I am able to take in more problems than I can hold. They come in, wave after wave, assaulting my mind. Wearing down my spirit. Filling me to capacity, and then adding just a little bit more.

There is an old saying, “that’s the straw that broke the camels back.” It means the camel had just enough weight that it could handle it with some strain and then you added just a bit more, just one more straw. I’ve never tried it, but I assume with this analogy the camel ends up a cripple and can no longer carry any loads, let alone the load it was capable of hauling just before the final straw was added.

For me, it’s the bursting point. I take in all the bad, hoping to find a resolution. And suddenly, POP!

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There is so much going wrong in the world.

There is so much going right in the world.

It’s okay to want to fix it. It’s okay to look for a way to make world better.

It’s not okay to let it destroy you in the process.

My work, my great task, is to approach the action of letting the bad flow through me.

Ignorance isn’t the answer. I can’t ignore it. But I don’t have to hold onto it all. I simply can’t.

As Pollyanna says, “If you look for the bad in people, you are sure to find it.”

I can’t solve the worlds problems myself. I am not the designated judge of the worlds actions.

I just need to live my life as I hope others will and be the model of an ideal world within myself.

As I say on my email signature “Kevin is a work in progress… Which is pretty cool.”

Namaste,

Kevin

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Frightened Rabbits

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I had an interesting topic all picked out for today. An analogy designed to get your mental gears running and snap you out of your daily grind. But as I sat down to write, I realize, I’m completely stressed out. My breathing is shallow. My thoughts are racing. I’m probably having a small scale panic attack. I say small scale, because I’m still able to intellectualize and ponder what to write, I’m still writing to you now… But thoughts race through me like scared rabbits looking for a bush to hide behind. Nothing sticks. Everything and everyone in my mental menagerie is trying to run for cover and wait out the storm.

I can’t change the storm. There is a lot going on. Most of the goings on are my perception of changes coming. Change terrifies me. I usually like change, after the fact, but only after. After I can look back and see the good in it. But I’m in the uncertain period of the actual change. Right now I don’t know what the change will bring.

With every silver lining you will find a cloud attached.

So today, I’ll simply ask you to breath with me.

Stop, Sit, Ground.

Find a safe quite place.

If you can, step outside and take off your shoes and socks. Place your feed on the dirt or in the grass.

A quick warning here. A couple weeks back I was in the need for grounding. So I took the afternoon off and went to a park about 30 minutes away, right by the Sacramento river. It was a beautiful day and there was a wide grassy field between me and the river bank. The open grass field was spotted with the occasional tree. Each tree had decided it was time to grow more of themselves, so they had dropped tiny seed pods all over the field. Mostly invisible to the naked eye, but quite visible to the naked foot. I felt like I was walking on thorns to get to the rivers edge. Word to the wise, choose your grounding path strategically.

Where was I? Ah yes, connecting with the earth.

Find seat, or ground standing, at your discretion.

Take a moment to close your eyes and listen. What do you hear?

I am fortunate to be away from a busy road and my ambient noise is the chattering of birds calling out to each other. But I’m not uniquely able to enter this practice. It’s not about being in a peaceful place, thought that doesn’t hurt. It is about being aware of your place. Perhaps you are near a busy street with cars going by. Perhaps you are on a busy sidewalk with people bustling by. Be aware of the stimulus. Acknowledge it. Now release it.

Deep Breath in, breathing in for 10 seconds. Fill your lungs completely, as if your body hasn’t had oxygen in weeks. Hold the air in your lungs for 3 seconds. Let your body savor the air. Then release exhaling long for 10 seconds. Then experience the void, holding an empty lung for 3 seconds.

Repeat until you realize you no longer need to repeat it. Take these steps until your body has reset it’s rhythm. Your body will begin to naturally take in more air.

You may find that as you settle into a quieter place the stress reaction attempt to speed things up again… This is okay. Take a breath and start over.

So often the subtle mind leads the body. Your body is experiencing a stress reaction because your mind is convinced you are in peril… You are not. Your wisdom knows this. You know you will be okay. You are transitioning. You are becoming the breath leading the body. You are becoming the tail wagging the dog.

Now, With your eyes fully open, look around you. Take in all that the scene in your world has to offer. Acknowledge it, pass it through, don’t judge it. You may be looking at a dirty house. You may be seeing graffiti on a mailbox. Maybe you’re in a park with a waterfall. Try to lose the mental words you would use to describe it, pretty, ugly, broken, new, instead simply witness it. Be the observer.

Back to your breath. 10 seconds in, hold for 3. 10 seconds out, hold for 3. Repeat.

Next tap into your skin. Maybe it’s cold. Maybe you feel the sun. Perhaps there is a breeze blowing across the hairs on your arm. Observe, try not to judge. Just be there.

Back to your breath.

Tap into your smell now. Are there any odors here? Close your eyes and take them in. Perhaps one smell jumps out, perhaps the blend becomes a neutral smell that has no impact at all. Acknowledge and move on.

Back to your breath.

Lastly, if the location works with this option, see if you can tie in your taste. Maybe there is a mint plant nearby and you can grab a piece of mint to taste. Maybe it’s lunch time and you can grab a sandwich. Or, if you’re really lucky, you decided to experience this practice near somewhere with ice cream. Find your taste, experience it, try not to judge. Be with it.

Back to your breath.

I don’t know about you, but I’m feeling better already.

Namaste,

Kevin

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My Nose Hurts – AKA – Visionaries Wanted

Nose To The Grindstone

I grew up with a “nose to the grindstone” mentality. Hard work will get you where you need to be.

Just keep working at it and you will succeed. And while hard work is crucial, critical, required, it’s not for everyone.

Or more specifically maybe I should say it’s not for everything and everytime.

There is a time and place for keeping your head down and working hard. And there are rewards for your efforts.

But I’ve also learned over time that when you just put your head down and work hard, it’s easy to miss that you’re trying to plow through a wall that already has a path built around it.

The world needs visionaries. The world needs ideas. The world needs a shift in prospective.

This all came to mind because I saw a report this week about a new product, transparent aluminum. It’s an amazing new ceramic that can be made thinner than hardened glass and be 10 times as strong. My mind immediately flashed back to a formative experience in my youth, when I went to see Star Trek IV. If you haven’t seen the movie yet, you should really go watch it, it’s one of the best Trek stories EVER! Without too many spoilers, they travel back in time and need to construct a giant storage tank with clear walls. So they work with a local industrialist to obtain the clear walls. As they have no money they barter by giving the man a secret from the future, a chemical formula that will enable him to make transparent aluminum. Fast forward to 30 years later and we’ve done it! All the details and connections can be seen here. It’s a real substance now. It can be made incredible light and incredibly strong. And it all started with someone’s idea.

Back in the 1980’s someone had a vision for transparent aluminum. It worked it’s way into the cultural mind through exposure in a movie and 30 years later we have something very similar.

It can be a long road from the vision to the future. But without the vision the future won’t happen. If someone hadn’t had the idea and shared it we wouldn’t be able to benefit from the implementation in the future.

Our world is created from our past visions.

Some of these visions have become a little scary. We need new visions and new direction. We can’t just expect the world to suddenly be better. We need to imagine it better. Dream it better. Share a vision of better. Then let the collective team of our world put their noses to the grindstone and make it happen.

A vision can come in moments. Implementation can take 30 years. But without the vision there is no implementation.

If you look at a ratio of percentages, you could say that the implementation is the most important part. It takes 99.999 percent of the time. The vision only takes 0.001 percent of the time. But without the vision there is no action. Without the vision, there is nothing.

Go be a dreamer. Write down some ideas. Share them. Today is not the day to make it happen, today is the day to imagine what will happen. Put your nose to the grindstone tomorrow.

Namaste,

Kevin

Nose To The Grindstone

Stand Still Will You!

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You have been brain washed. You were taught to think a certain way. You may be living a lie.

 

Do you think you’re standing still now? Or sitting still? Do you believe you are stationary while you read this?

You’re not. You’re actually moving quite fast. In fact you’ve broken the sound barrier and you can’t slow down.

You’re part of a system that you believe to be stationary. It may be easier to think about it this way, but it’s wrong.

While I sit here and write this I am moving 683 Mile Per Hour around the core of the planet. You can even do the math yourself to see how fast you are moving, go here – how to calculate your speed based on the earth’s rotation.

cos(38.55) (my latitude) = 0.659

1037 MPH (at the equator) x cos(38.55) = 683 MPH

I’m almost breaking the speed of sound.

 

It’s actually physically impossible for you to stand still. Even if I found a way to move 683 MPH in the opposite direction of the earths rotation, I still haven’t compensated for the earths rotation around the sun. The earth is orbiting the sun at a speed of 66,000 MPH. I’m going to need a faster car to compensate for that, or maybe a spaceship.

 

Apparently I’m not the first person to think through this. I even found a website documenting “How fast am I moving when I’m standing still?” Suffice it to say, you are moving astoundingly fast…

 

So why do you think you are standing still?

 

Mostly it is just easier for your brain to think of yourself as the center of the universe. It’s partial an ego thing, but also a perception thing. We experience the universe as an extension of our bodies. Everything around us is perceived relative to our position and motion.

 

So why does being aware of your actual speed versus your perceived speed matter?

 

Well not to be too blunt, but it matters because it means you are thinking wrong. Every day you oversimplify your position in the universe in order to process basic input like a car driving toward you or a fly buzzing in your face. On a relative scale a car moving towards you at 60 miles an hour is inconsequential. You’re already moving at well in excess of 500,000 MPH (accounting for the solar system’s movement around our galactic core). So 60 miles per hour is a speed difference of 0.012 %. Statistically insignificant.

 

Yet, within your frame of reference, you had better get the hell out of the way.

 

We have learned to think the way that we do because it’s practical and it’s optimal to help us remember to get out of way when something comes along moving at a statistically insignificant speed, yet crucially damaging when the risk of interaction with your body is considered.

 

But when we keep thinking in our small way, because it is the most practical way to make it through the day, it really does a disservice to our actual experience, to disregard our reality in favor of our perception.

 

Speed is just the low hanging fruit of awareness. There are so many aspects of our experience where our practical perception and our reality are two completely different beasts. It is this dissonance, this difference, that allows us to be manipulated by fear.

 

Keep your eyes and mind open for your bigger reality. When you feel fear. Greet it as a known entity and try identify it’s source. Remind yourself that you’re bigger than that. You are better than that. You are faster than that.

 

Keep fighting the good fight.

 

Namaste,

 

Kevin

 

It’s all relative.

 

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Keeping Life Interesting

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Have you ever played a game in god mode?

 

Typically god mode turns all the cheats on in a game. You can do anything, go anywhere, be invincible. Suddenly without any effort at all, you can have all the coolest armor, all the best weapons. The boss battles that you would have struggled with, playing over and over again, are over in seconds. Things you’d have to spend hours doing during normal game play, are immediate, or you can even just bypass them.

 

You won’t have to trudge through the dessert to find the 7 lost ancient baubles, so you can make the omega key and open the chest of lost knowledge. It’s all handed to you at the click of a mouse.

 

I have turned on good mode in a few games and the results are often disappointing at best. Oh sure it’s interesting for the first few minutes. You can explore the places too dangerous for you to visit before. Wander the forest where everything would have killed you, knowing nothing can stop you now. But all too quickly, as you start to analyze what you’re doing, you realize, everything that had value previously, does not anymore.

 

The entire economy of the game has collapsed. Everything that meant something before, is meaningless. You don’t have to worry about getting the armor of great brilliance, because you can’t die. You don’t need a sword of insane awesomeness, because your hands are lethal weapons. You don’t need to defeat the boss of Swampy Evil, because you can just walk past her.

 

Now consider your own journey here as a human being. I think this is the reason the universe has seen fit to blank our memory upon arrival. When we arrive on this planet, for our human experience, we are given a clean slate. If we remembered everything about why we came here and where we came from and what was to happen, the game would appear rigged. There would be no incentive to proceed. There would be no interest. The adventure would be over before it began.

 

Without the illusion generated by complete amnesia there would be no perception of risk.

 

The stakes are high in this life.

We are here with the idea that this is all there is and that everything is riding on this life.

But if we had absolute certainty that this was only an elaborate illusion put together for our amusement and education we wouldn’t be invested.

The total amnesia that accompanies the arrival here into our humanity is crucial to keep life interesting.

 

If the challenge is gone. The risk is gone.

Life just becomes a tedious exercise of moving pixels around on a computer screen. The mental investment is lost and you are left with complex animation with no purpose.

 

On the other hand. If the game is complex enough, having higher knowledge can simply change the game. Alter your perceived values.

 

There are several ways to look at god mode functionality. Depending on the complexity of the game instead of breaking the game, it initiates a subtle shift in the game. Everything that mattered in the game doesn’t any more. Your perspective has shifted and you no longer value what used to have value. Instead you find a new economy in the game. You battle for higher stakes.

Maybe previously you were fighting for your own survival.

Now you are trying to save the native people from the onslaught of giant tree grubs.

 

If a game is complex enough and interesting enough you can actually find a higher level game, a meta game if you will, within the game. Suddenly your powers are required to pursue a higher purpose. You have gone from the victim to the maker. You have changed from a boat on the unforgiving river, to a mountain around which the river must alter its coarse.

 

When we do capture glimpses of the higher reality that brought us here it informs our values regarding the real economy.

It fractures that illusion that we must have the iphone of awesomeness and shifts our values to the higher economy.

What if we already entered the cheat code, and we’re playing in god mode, but we forgot?

 

Namaste,

Kevin

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Don’t Fall Asleep

Stay Awake! Surprised Woman

If you can read this line, odds are, you are awake.

 

No, seriously, I mean it. From a cosmic and spiritual standpoint, the simple fact that you are here reading this, implies that you have woken up. It implies that you are aware of the world around you and aware that there is something more. You are, as the terminology goes, “Awake”.

 

Please understand. This isn’t an ego thing. I’m not saying because you read my blog you’re part of an elite spiritual team that I hand picked and assembled. Though it’s mostly true, but really not my doing. So why do you come here?

 

I don’t cover my website in adverts with half naked women. Or tips on how to refinance your home loan. I don’t talk about sports or technology. I don’t often reference pop culture, though I am guilty of frequent science fiction and fantasy references…

 

The fact that you’re still here. The fact that you care enough to even read this far into my writings means you are a seeker.

 

What is a seeker? Well quite simply you’re looking for something.

 

Harry Potter has a perfect analogy for this in the game of quidditch. I don’t want to get too far off topic, so I’ll let you research quidditch if you’re not familiar with it. But the important part is, in the game of quidditch the entire team is focused on the main sport of scoring goals with the primary ball. But there is a special role for the seeker. He or she essentially ignores the rest of the game looking for a small, hard to catch, ball called the golden snitch. The team that finds the snitch first, often wins, because it’s worth so many points. It’s a game changer.

 

You are the seeker, you’re looking for the game changer. All around you are people distracted by the big game. But you know there is something more. You are awake to the larger reality.

 

So why am I even drawing attention to your waking state? Because it’s slipping. Because it’s so easy to lapse back into a sleeping state. The world around you is pummeling your senses all day. The constant barrage is making it difficult to maintain your spiritual consciousness. You are at serious risk of lapsing into a spiritual coma.

 

The simple solution is don’t fall asleep. Don’t let yourself lapse back into a sleeping state. But there is more to it than just saying it. Like a slogan discouraging kids from doing drugs, it’s easier said, than done. There is peer pressure and curiosity and all manner of distraction flying in the face of your effort to stay conscious. So here are some ideas and reminders of ways to maintain your alertness. Think of them as spiritual caffeine.

 

Seek your quiet place. The resolution to an abundance of noise is not more noise. You have to find the center of your worldly storm and visit it. The eye of your hurricane where you can see the storm, but not be the storm. Visit as often as you can allow. Even if it’s only once a week.

Sometimes it feels like the only time I have in the eye is when I’m sitting trying to determine what I’m going to write about for my blog. I’d like to say it’s for all of you, but that would be a omission of truth. I’m glad to have visitors here, but I write this because I need an excuse to visit the eye of my storm. Thank you for being part of my excuse.

 

Seek out other seekers. It’s biblical “like sharpens like”. Steel is used to sharpen steel. You can’t sharpen a knife with a watermelon. Seek out like minded people that are looking for the same things you are. You don’t have to agree on everything, in fact disagreement can be even more powerful than consensus. Seek for the seekers.

 

Filter your input to those items that invigorate your connection to the higher. I come from a world where this is an exclusionary statement. I grew up in a world where this would imply you need to shut down the internet and turn off the TV. Where the approved sources for inspiration are few and solitary. Where the items of input are approved by the proffered officials of your faith. I do not mean it that way. I simply mean that you need to filter your input and choose your sources wisely. I will be honest, much of my spiritual input comes from watching old science fiction reruns and filtering for the deeper truth. I don’t recommend it to all and I know I would be judged by many for this choice. But the pathway leads me to where I walk and the flowers here are pretty. To be sure my lizard brain enjoys the walk more than a reading through of the Bhagavad Gita. To all things there is a time and place. Walk your path, no one else can walk it for you.

 

Namaste,

Kevin

Stay Awake! Surprised Woman

Start Talking

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Have you ever stopped and considered how your mind colors the world around you?

You have the ability to distill any situation into black and white, good and bad, agree and disagree.

It’s interesting to consider how our mental assumptions play into our interactions with others.

We tend to construct worlds in our heads of black and white.

 

It’s easy enough to understand why we do this.

It simplifies the world around us to consider a more straight forward scenario…

Is the light turned on or turned off?

The simplicity of a lit or unlit state.

On the analysis appears true, but it is often superficial and inaccurate.

What kind of light is it? (LED, fluorescent, a candle)

What spectrum of light is generated?

What color is the light?

What is the intensity of light?

And so on…

 

This colors our interactions with other people when it comes to our psychology of connection.

We tend to operate in one of two paradigms.

Either we believe ourselves to be part of the majority, aka everyone believes or behaves the same as we do.

-Or-

We believe ourselves to be alone an isolated, nobody believes what we do, or nobody else has been through what we do.

 

Both of these lines or reasoning are common and pervasive, they can even be helpful in understand the situation.

They can also be harmful and frequently flat out wrong.

 

If you operate under the paradigm that everybody believes the way that you do, you operate under an unspoken justification that what you believe is right. culturally accepted behavior does not actually imply moral or just behavior. It simply implies that you won’t be judged harshly by another for the behavior.

Racism, sexism, agism, many ostracizing behaviors tend to be socially accepted, but in no way right or just.

Genocide has been culturally accepted and condoned in recent times, it certainly doesn’t make it right.

 

Alternately, if you operate under the paradigm that you’re all alone in your behavior and thinking, it doesn’t make it wrong. If you are judged harshly by someone around you for your behavior it doesn’t mean that you’re the only one with that behavior. In fact often the person judging you is seeing their own behavior in a mirror of your actions and judging you for something they despise in themselves. Not that it makes you feel much better about the judgement pronounced upon you.

 

There have been many people that have suffered and even given up and lost their lives through the harmful belief that they are all alone. The idea that you are alone is a frightening path that can lead to further isolation, guilt and a harmful downward spiral of self deprecation.

 

It’s time to start talking. It’s time to get the word out to the isolated people of the world that they are not alone. You could be the person that shares your story and saves the life of a lonely person afraid there is something wrong.

 

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying everything is okay. I’m not saying all actions are good. I’m not saying that all of your behaviors are noble and justifiable. I am saying you are not alone.

 

I also understand that it makes sense to not talk about it. If you feel you are all alone, you can be afraid of the reactions of others. More to the point you may have tried to share your story in the past and been judged and ostracized. It may mean that you need to keep looking to find that people that will benefit from and resonate with your story. The search may be difficult. The path may be rough.

 

It is important to understand that your story may be a path to connection for someone dying of loneliness. Your story may be their salvation. You may be the lifeline to an individual desperately looking for hope.

 

Seek your niche.

Find your comfort zone.

Search out your tribe.

Share your world.

 

Namaste,

Kevin

 

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Time Traveler

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If you could travel through time, what would you do?

Where would you go?

Why would you go?

 

Some people like to consider time travel an activity to fix the mistakes of the past.

Go back and convince yourself to turn left at the T in the road instead of right.

Alter a key decision to avoid a catastrophic outcome.

Undo the scars in our psyche.

 

Others consider time travel from a tourist or researcher perspective.

Go back and see the battle of midway or witness the birth of Christ.

Maybe stand in the farmers field and see what really crashed at Roswell.

 

If you had this kind of power, or ability, what would you do with it?

Would you feel godlike and try to reshape the world based on your designs?

Or modest with a hint of greed and go back and win the lottery or make stock picks based on your foreknowledge?

 

Would you binge watch history?

 

There is a pattern emerging with the availability of television shows in bulk, through services such as netflix, where people will watch entire seasons of a show in a single day. It’s called binge watching. If you had the ability, would you binge watch history?

Would you jump to the birth of Christ, then jump to the sermon on the mount, then Leap forward to the crucifixion, finally jumping ahead 3 days to the resurrection?

 

Would you actually watch history unfold? Or would you build your own synopsis?

 

Would you watch the assassination of Archduke Franz Ferdinand then jump the Paris Peace Conference? Glossing over the specter of World War I focusing only on the highlights.

Would you edit history to remove the boring parts?

Would this make you a scholar? Or a voyeur?

 

I think the illusion of time travel is that there is one thing. One moment. One pivotal instance where everything changed. The idea that watching that moment, will make all of history understandable. The idea that changing that moment will change all of history. I don’t think our world is that simple and I don’t think our world is that fragile.

I believe we are an accumulation of actions and activities.

Individual moments facilitate tipping points.

Events trigger events.

Actions compound into actions.

Critical mass is reached and an explosion seems to come out of nowhere…

But the explosion was in fact building for a very long time.

 

If you could go back and assassinate Hitler, would you stop the genocide of the Jewish people? Or would you simple trigger a shift in which nobody knows the name of Hitler, but say Himmler in the same dark tones? How many would you have to kill to prevent the mass murder of the Jewish people? And after you’ve altered history with your dark actions would they begin to whisper your name in the same dark tone…

 

Before you try to fix the world, begin to work on yourself.

Before you try to understand the world, understand yourself.

 

If we try to alter the universe, but we are a mess, the result we create is a mess.

If we come from a place of internal chaos, then what we exude and what we create around us is chaos.

If we come from a place of centered peace, then what we exude and what we create around us is centered peace.

 

And we don’t even need a time machine. We can be a positive change in the world and be a scholar right where we are, in the present moment.

 

Namaste,

Kevin

 

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More Than Adequate

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You will never be more than you are today. You are all that you will ever be.

 

How do these statements hit you? Do they come across as an insult? Or a compliment?

 

A mindset of scarcity processes these statements and is afraid they are true. A thinking pattern of inadequacy leads to the belief that you need to be more. The need to be more leads to attempts to resolve your deficiency through acquisition.

 

Alternately, an abundant mind will rejoice in this statement, because you already know you are enough. Being nothing more than you are today is wonderful, because you are already exceptional. You don’t need to be anything more, because you are already more than enough.

 

Your beliefs don’t actually change who you are. They change how you react to who you are. And they change how you interact with the world around you.

 

Coming from a place of scarcity, versus coming from a place of abundance, dramatically changes how you see the world around you.

 

Two people can look at a pile of money and react in completely different ways.

 

To one person the pile of money is a treasure.

An abundance of funds and possibilities for freedom.

To another person the pile  is a pittance.

A few days of living followed by lack and the need for more.

 

The pile doesn’t change. The perception of the pile changes.

 

We live in a world of excess and lack. We are surrounded by excess. We are constantly told we are lacking. The messages are designed to drive us to consume. They are intended to facilitate a model of acquisition. Driving us in a world where obtaining the next item is the goal. Not even the item itself, but the acquisition of the item. Owning the item immediately devalues the item. It feeds on a natural human desire. But it’s being pushed into overdrive by the constant availability of the novel and unique. Manufactured scarcity.

 

Are you adequate as is?

How do you feel about the word adequate?

Would you stay in a hotel if it was described as adequate? Why not?

adequate: as much or as good as necessary for some requirement or purpose.

 

Actually adequate sounds pretty good. By definition it is all that is needed.

 

Do you feel adequate to take on today?

Do you feel adequate to be yourself today?

Do feel adequate to live your life to your full potential?

 

What if I told you, you are more than adequate?

 

Again, it may sound like an insult. If I were to see that on my annual work review I would start to consider if I needed to look for another line of work. But it’s actually pretty damn good.

 

In world filled with the most extravagant hyperbole ever! You are more than adequate!

 

We live in a world of overflowing cups. But we don’t need an overflowing cup. We don’t need everything in excess. What we really need is adequacy. What we really need is to have enough. But we keep seeking too much. Largely because we are told we need more.

 

Seek balance today. Look to become the half full cup.

You are more than adequate for the task.

 

Namaste,

Kevin

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You Can Do Better?

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The other day my 5 year old came to me with some new activity she’d performed. She had managed to take a piece of paper and cut it into small chunks all over the floor. My adult mind quickly weighed the options for response:

Who am I talking to?

How much work was this to create?

How much work will this be to clean up?

Does this represent progress for motor skills?

Is the result something I would deem as creative?

What response is expected by the question asker?

I’m sure 1000 other questions and answers swam through my head in moments. Most of them subconscious. Within milliseconds my internal consensus was complete and I knew what my response would be. I was ready to deliver it.

With real sincerity and full enthusiasm I responded, “That’s really cool dude! Good job!”

All this was accompanied by a high 5!

 

I meant it, she was excited, I was excited. She had fun, she was proud of herself and her project was a success. As a parent, how could you not be proud?

 

Now, I was pleased with the response.

Excited that we’d had a fun interaction.

But my brain loves to process ideas. Once it’s spun up for problem solving, it likes to keep going… and going… and going. It’s sort of like the energizer bunny. But instead of banging on a drum it likes to tweak up my anxiety. In this case my brain kept running through questions and throwing out variable changes that may have changed the outcome. “What if the paper she was creating with was her birth certificate?”, “What if she had been using the big sharp kitchen scissors?”, “What if an adult had come to me with this same question?”…

What would I do then?

 

My brain loves hypothetical situations. It’s unfortunate from an anxiety perspective, because my brain tends to make me worry about things that are never going to happen. It is a gold mine from a blogging perspective. Every once in a while my brain spits out a random question that makes for a good blog. (Hopefully at least once a week)

 

What would I have done differently if an adult had come to me with the same question?

This lead to a whole new line of thinking.

At what point in life do we stop encouraging people?

As mentioned I was totally and sincerely supportive of my daughters activity. But what if a coworker had come over and said “Hey, check this out!”. He leads me over to his cubicle and shows me a little pile of cut up paper on his desk. How would I respond?

 

At what level of development do we decide a person no longer needs a pick me up?

 

When do we feel in life that someone has been encouraged enough and our job is to level set their expectation for the path going forward?

 

“Jon, I really like your pile of paper. But I also think you can do better. The paper chunk sizes are all over the place. You didn’t even organize the stacks, it’s just a heap of sliced up paper. I don’t even think you were trying. It’s like you phoned it in.”

 

I’m as guilty of it as the next person. I’m a sucker for kids, especially my kids. But there seems to be a cultural mentality about performance. There is, some point, in height or age or some metric nobody is even aware that we’ve agreed on, that causes us to become more critical. The voices change and our mental decision points shift. We weigh in more towards criticism. We lose the fun approver. We stop encouraging.

 

Why do we stop encouraging?

 

Catch yourself judging today.

Find a person that needs encouragement.

It’s not hard, they’re all around you.

Encourage them.

 

“Way to stop traffic crossing gaurd”

“Nice Decision Obama”

“Thanks for fighting for our rights, Mrs. Constitutional Lawyer”

“Good blog Kevin”

 

It’s a cruel world out there, be the voice of “you done good”.

There is enough criticism.

 

Namaste,

Kevin

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